Monday, October 28, 2013

Love God. Love People.

Recently our church handed out arm bands to be worn for the next 30 days. Truthfully, I am not a real fan of the flexible advertising goodies, but this one caught my eye.  It’s a simple slogan, but an immense idea. Love God. Love People. In a world of WWJD, I think this is one that even Jesus might wear. After all, He was the one to come up with the slogan. It’s a shortened version of the two greatest commandments: Luke 10:27(NIV) "'Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your strength and with your entire mind'; and, 'Love your neighbor as yourself.'" Yes, this is one reminder I need to wear. Love God. How often I forget. Love People. Boy, would this solve a lot of problems if we would focus on “others better than ourselves” as we go about our daily duties. As a “left hand man” my very existence is serving others. Our school theme verse for the 2013-14 school year is Philippians 2:3-5 (NIV) “Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves, not looking to your own interests but each of you to the interests of the others.” Who will you please today? Jesus? Others? Yourself? If you live the word of Jesus. Joy will follow! 



Tuesday, April 30, 2013

Where Was God?


During a tragedy, the phrase “Where was God?” is often heard. The fact that someone is suffering somehow translates into either “God doesn't exist” or “God doesn't care”. Some may even think that God sees it all but can’t do anything about it.

What people feel to realize is that as member of the human race, we are at war. War you say? What war? Even if a bombing, a shooting or a senseless rampage isn't official an “act of terror” it is an act of war. The Bible says that Satan is at war with God. Since God loves mankind, all of humanity becomes a target of Satan’s wrath. Yes, much of our suffering is a direct result of sin in the world, but it’s still battle fallout. A true soldier doing his duty, does not ask, “Where is the General?”. He knows were he is. A soldier knows what his own duty is.

A better question might be, “Where were you?  Do you pray daily for safety, for God to intervene in the affairs of evil? Are you sober and vigilant as the Scripture says? Or do you take it all for granted, living only for what pleases you? The Bible tells us to put on the whole armor of God to withstand the devil. (Ephesians 6:10-18)

We are told to overcome evil with good. How can we do that? Revelation 12:11 (NIV) says: They triumphed over him by the blood of the Lamb and by the word of their testimony; they did not love their lives so much as to shrink from death.”

It has been said that all that is needed for evil to triumph is for good men to do nothing. But really, for us to triumph over evil, evil must attack first. How can you triumph over nothing? Next time, instead of bemoaning your fate when bad things happen, triumph over evil. It’s already given to us through God’s power!

Saturday, April 13, 2013

If Tires Could Talk...

It's funny really. We want to be the best person we can be. We want to be strong, to make a difference. Yet we want things to go smoothly.
Imagine a tire company that wanted to make the best sports tires in the world, but never tested them. We would think that was silly. We also wouldn't buy them. Tires, to be safe and durable, must be tested rigorously. The tire maker must know they will hold up to the perils of the open road or they will not be in business long.
But have you ever thought about what the tire thinks of all that testing? (I'm sure you probably haven't, but humor me anyway.) It is driven at high speeds over ruts and bumps, through gravel and dirt. It is driven through rain, snow, storms and wind, over ice and blistering pavement  It is skidded, screeched  kicked (old school) scraped, under and even over inflated. And for what you might ask? So it can be stamped APPROVED, worthy of carrying precious cargo. 'm sure the tire would just as soon forego the test and just go for the stamp. But that's not how it works, with tires, ships, airplanes  or even character. They all must be tested to ensure their quality.
This last week my family was tested. My daughter went in for a routine "sex of the baby" ultrasound to find that there was no heartbeat. To make it worse, she found out there were twins. The next day Elisabeth Rose and Renee Rose were still born at 5 months. Our first grand-babies are born and taken away. A godly mother and father had to bury their children instead of holding them in their arms. Yet through the testing, they are being refined, no APPROVED. I am so proud of them. Does it hurt? Yes! Will it continue to hurt? Unfortunately, yes. Is God still good? ABSOLUTELY! He has a plan and will continue to work. My daughter and son-in-law have called them "their little missionaries". They hope that others will be strengthened and brought to Christ through this trial.
Here is my daughter's own Facebook entry on April 6th:

"Hi, as you might have heard, we went in for our 20 week ultra sound appointment yesterday to find out the sex of the baby. While we were there, we found out we had twins and that neither had a heartbeat any longer. They were sharing a sack and everything in it and they just didn't make it. We were sent to Doctors right away were I was induced and delivered, like a normal delivery (mostly), two tiny beautiful baby girls. We are heartbroken but know The Lord has a plan. He is good, always. Even though this devastating event, we completely trust him. We are thankful for the opportunity to be parents of two beautiful girls, Elisabeth Rose and Renee Rose. We will be having a small service to honor them and will keep you updated with the date and time. If anyone would like to help you can contact my mom Patricia Cross. Thank you in advance for your prayers and support."

My children are living out their faith for the world. What more could a father want?

Helping Hands & Shovel-fulls of Love




I witnessed something wonderful at the funeral of my twin grand-babies yesterday. At the end of the service, my son-in-law gently put the box carrying the remains into the small grave. He then put a couple shovel-fulls of dirt into the grave. I had never seen this before. My wife leaned over to me and said, "Stephanie said you could help if you want". They were going to make him shovel all the dirt in now as they watched?! I jumped up to help. I was shocked, no stunned. "Do we have to do all of it?", I whispered. "And anyone else that wants to help", he said. Then as I looked up, tears filled my eyes. There were already several men waiting for their turn. As I handed over the shovel to John's best friend, I stepped back and watched as man after man took his turn helping their "brother" give his children to God. As it happens, it’s a German Baptist tradition, a wonderful, tender tradition. As we sang "Bless the Lord Oh My Soul" and watched the outpouring of heartfelt shovel-full’s slowly fill in the small hole, we came together as believers in Christ.
My granddaughters will be sorely missed. My daughter will need more comforting. Things will never be the same. It's God's plan so we can grow. We must be tested to be approved. We didn't really loose the twins, not really. I can imagine two beautiful little girls, sitting by the gates of heaven waiting to give their mom and dad a big hug. And someday we all will. It's God's plan.



                      Elizabeth Rose Garber                                          Renee Rose Garber
                                    2013                                                                          2013
On shining steps near Heaven’s gate
All dressed in white two roses wait
For time to pass and years to fly
For those on earth to say goodbye
With loving smiles and golden hair
They welcome others entering there
They wait for mother’s hand to hold
And in her arms their blossoms unfold
                                                   For My Granddaughters – M. Dale Cross

Wednesday, October 24, 2012

A wife of noble character who can find?

Proverbs 31
    I could not begin to put a value on my wife. After 30 years, I find I have become utterly dependent on her. I trust her with my life, and she has never, ever disappointed me.

  • She is powerful wind, lifting me to heights that I could never imagine on my own.
  • She is like a rudder, keeping me focused and on track. I shutter when I think of what I might have become if left to my own devices.
  • She is smart, sexy, and funny often all at the same time.
  • She is beautiful both outwardly and inwardly. Those tiny lines you might see on her smiling face are simply her sweet spirit shining through.
  • She is the epitome of thrift and creativeness. Sales seem to follow her around. If we need it, she will find it.
  • She does the work of many, all without complaining.
  • She is generous and kind. I have yet to see her refuse a poor Girl Scout selling cookies. Her fresh baked cookies are famous, liberally given, and short lived.
  • She can plan and execute a wonderful vacation for our family on what seems almost nothing.
  • She makes us live within our means; yet we have enough.
  • We eat like kings, and still she surprises us with new and delectable things.
  • She is one of the first to awake, and usually the last to go to sleep.
  • I believe she could sew anything – I've seen it with my own eyes, from wedding dresses to suits, often without a pattern.
  • She protects her family. I would rather face a mother bear in a deserted wood.
  • Her children text just to say “I love you.”
  • She is the best thing that has ever happened to me.
I may have accomplished a few noble things. I strive to be a good father. I try to be the best husband possible. But any way that you look at it, I got the better deal by far.


Friday, October 12, 2012

All in good time my child, all in good time.



“What do we want God to do for us?” I had asked. It was June, and we were in-between jobs. This weekend I was driving my family up to the San Francisco Bay area so that I could finish all the moving details. Now we were back on the road, traveling north. With our hunger satisfied from our favorite roadside burger joint, we slowly compiled a list as we drove. (I have underlined the answers to pray as they happened.)
  1. I wanted to teach in what is called a “Principle Approach” school.
  2. We wanted to be in the church for a while before I signed a teaching contract.
  3. We wanted to live close to the school/church.
  4. We wanted to live in a house. 
  5. We wanted a 12-month contract.
  6. We wanted good insurance coverage.
  7. We wanted to be able to live on my salary so she could be home with our children.
  8. I wanted to take a year off to “forget”.
  9. We wanted a pastor that loved us.
  10. I wanted to teach and also do church music. 

With a desperate prayer, and what faith we could muster, we set out in a new direction. We finally settled in at my in-laws until we could find a place to live. First, I needed some new shoes. The administrator at the last school had given me a going away party and a gift certificate for J. C. Penney’s. It was a hot June afternoon as we drove back from the mall. My wife was pregnant with our 3rd daughter. We decided to get something to eat, but because of the heat my wife ask for us to stop somewhere nicer than a fast food joint so we could relax and enjoy our meal. Right over the freeway was a Denny’s. The hostess informed us that there was a 20-minute wait for a “non-smoking” table. It was cool and comfortable. That’s all that mattered. About 5 minutes later she returned with an odd but welcome proposition. If we were willing to share a booth with a “nice little old lady” (her words) we could get a table now. We enjoyed a nice lunch and good conversation. When she heard I was a Christian School teacher, she began telling us about the church she had just started attending. We said goodbye, and she left. I thought it was somewhat odd that she could not remember the name of the church, but I marked it up to a “senior memory”. After a few minutes she returned to our table. She had found a bulletin in her car. Not much was said about it, although I though the pastor’s face was vaguely familiar. The next Sunday, my wife suggested that we visit the church. It happened to be in the same general area where we were house hunting. 
When I called to get directions, I found that it was the pastor who answered the phone. During our conversation I learned that I had met him at my college when he was a pastor in Wyoming. Although I had really liked the school and its programs, there was no way either of us wanted to go to Wyoming. 
When we arrived at the church we were met by the assistant pastor. We introduced ourselves and after some small talk, he asked me what I did. I said I was currently working for a computer data center in the area, but was a science teacher by choice. “Don’t leave here until we talk to you”, he said with a smile. 
We were escorted to the adult Sunday school class lead by, of all people, the headmaster of the school. “Don’t ask him what his job is right now, ask him what he used to do”, quipped the assistant pastor on his way out. That started the wheels in motion. After the service I was asked to chat with the pastor and the headmaster.
 I was very impressed with their program. It was a Principle Approach School. They paid 20% more for each class over five. After finding out my background basics, the headmaster was disappointed. “I have a problem. I have all the teachers I need for the coming year, but I would really need you for the following school year. You’re going to go get a job somewhere else, and we won’t be able to hire you”, he said. I assured him I was not looking for a position this school year. He then told me that they would be beginning the 12 month contracts the following year. They provided full insurance. Children of faculty went tuition free
I signed a contract in early January. Shortly after, my wife’s aunt was murdered. The pastor gave my wife the money for a flight to West Virginia for the funeral. This was only one of the many times that he showed his love for our family.  After one year of teaching, the assistant pastor left. The pastor asked if we would like to move into the church-owned house across the street.  The next year, the music director left so they could take care of his in-laws. I was asked to lead the church services and the choir with pay! Everything we had asked for (and more) had been provided!

Monday, October 8, 2012

About Cars…


            I think I inherited my dad’s philosophy about cars. “Cars are simply a tool to get you from point A to point B safely, and faster than walking.” Oh sure, keep them clean and fixed up, but they don’t have to be new. In fact, as far as I know, the only new car my dad ever owned was a 57 Chevy that he had before he got married. Mom always got the better car; he drove a work van.

            My dad was also a Mr. Fix-it  He could fix almost anything, and some things that shouldn't have been able to be fixed. I inherited that trait too. Living in California for so many years, I am convinced that u can get almost anything for free (or very little) if you’re not in a hurry and it doesn't have to be new.

            We have owned 12 cars. We have only paid for two of them. One of those was a lemon. There are a few that really stand out in my memory, not because I liked them particularly, but because they were “God Gifts”. 
           
The first memorable car was a blue, four-door 1974 Ford Maverick. It was given to us by a friend. It was in very good shape body-wise. It just had a cracked engine block. Good find, but I didn't have any free money to spend on the car. While we were saving up, the school I was teaching at was broken into, my classroom included. Although they stole mostly junk, I still got a couple of hundred dollars from the insurance company. Money in hand, I went to a local junk yard to see what I could find. Usually all the good engines in this particular yard are already pulled and in a separate room. As I looked around, there was an engine, exactly what I needed, with the transmission still attached lying right there in the aisle. When I asked one of the yard workers how much he wanted for it, he just scratched his head and said, “Where did that come from?” he finally said, “$150.00 and it’s yours.” This was cheaper than the price of just an engine! When we got it home, we realized it had just been rebuilt. The car must have been in an accident. It didn't even have to be rebuilt. We used most of the peripheral parts from the old engine and put it all together. It ran like a dream! We drove it for years. It took exactly the amount of money that I had gotten from the insurance claim. Well, there was $10.00 left over, just enough for a tank of gas.

            The second car was technically never really mine. A friend gave us a car that used to belong to her brother. It wasn't even in that good of shape, but it ran. A mechanic had told her that it had rotten freeze plugs, a nasty fix on this type of car. She asked us if we wanted it to fix up. I reluctantly took the car. Upon closer inspection, the leak turned out to be a bottom radiator hose. After one cut with a knife, I slid the hose back on and fastened the clamp.  A few days later, I sold it for $350.00. Not bad for 15 minutes of work.

The third car was a blessing in the middle of chaos. I was having a rough year. I had lost my dad, and now I had to spend most of August on a jury for a civil trial. We had a new baby, and this made the old car too small. I was having bouts of fierce heartburn. A friend of ours was checking up on me, and I mentioned the car problem. She reminded me that her husband was a used car salesman. (He happens to be the only used car salesman I ever trusted.) They invited us to stay at their house while we looked for a car. He found a van, and even made the financing fit our budget. We even got to drive it back east to visit my mom.

The forth car was actually supposed to be a purchase. We had to make an unplanned move one school year, and needed a second car to get around. A friend told me he had just purchased his dream jeep and had a car, a 1988 Nissan Sentra, which he wasn't driving that we could use. It needed some work, but it ran pretty well. After a CV axle and a replacement door lock from a junkyard, it was ready to go.  It even had the insurance paid for the year. At the end of the year when the registration was due, he asked me if I would like to buy it. He even said I could pay him when I got the money.  I changed the registration that summer. On the first day of school, I noticed a note on my desk. It was from the family that let us use the car. I taught their children and she was also a faculty member. Expecting the usual “welcome back” note I was stunned to read these words:
“Thank you for teaching our children again this year. They really look forward to your class.
Oh, and by the way, consider the car paid in full.”
Yes, I cried, and prayed, and thanked, and drove that car for many years more.    

            The fifth car surprised even the giver. Our van (the lemon) was dead. We were driving all the children to school in the Nissan (loved that car) and then my wife would use the car if she needed it.  My wife was working for the school also, but at a different campus. One of the other faculty members had seen the “prayer chain” request for our vehicle needs. They had a van that none of their children wanted to drive. They wanted to give it to us, but warned it had a pretty bad oil leak. Being a decent mechanic, I was up to the challenge. We picked the van up at school. It was nice! We now owned a 1994 Plymouth Grand Voyager Sport. We drove it to show my wife’s parents, and then home. I would deal with the oil leak later. The next morning I check for leaks. Nothing was found. This went on for a whole week. Later that week, the lady who had been so gracious with the car gift, excitedly commented, “So your husband found the leak”. When my wife said that we were still looking for it, the lady grew pale. She explained that it would fill the bottom of a small pan put under the car each evening.
My wife seems to have the best explanation. It was a “God Gift”. He took what they could give, and fixed it for us. We have since stopped looking for the leak.

            The Truck
            Not long ago, my daughter was putting to rest her old worn out Toyota. We had notified our Church’s prayer chain to pray for a car. I too was driving a little Mitsubishi that was not long for this world. It had a manual transmission and no one else in my family would drive it. (Frankly, I’m not sure they knew how.) A dear friend and school parent called me a few days later. He said that he had a truck for me. He was reading his emails in the study when he came across the pray chain email. It was then that God put a thought in his heart. Give that truck to the Cross family. He went into the living room and told his wife that they needed to talk. She smiled and said, “I already know. We’re supposed to give the Crosses the truck.” Sure, that happens every day, right? OK,  so I went to look at the truck. I figured it was going to be a little, semi worn-out, “beater” truck. As I rounded the corner into their court, I was speechless. It was a 1999 Dodge Ram 1500 in great condition with only 69,000 original miles! To top it off, it had already had its semiannual smog check. What a blessing it was!  I got to give the Mitsubishi to my neighbor’s brother-in-law and my daughter found another small car to get her around. I still am amazed when I thing of all of the undeserved blessings the God has showered on our family. Not long after, a coworker at my summer job commented on the truck. When I told them the story, they said, “Wow, now you don’t see that happening very much!” I just smiled. In our corner of the world, it happens more than you would think…